It’s supposed to be the “most wonderful time of the year” but sadly… it’s not. If you are dealing with the pain of betrayal, the holiday season feels anything but merry and bright. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to navigate this season with grace and hope. You may find it hard to walk in the beauty …
Lessons From the Rearview Mirror
In a single moment, life as I had known it came to an unexpected end. Devastation and pain abruptly barged into my life as a result of my husband’s sexual sin and infidelity. Hope that anything good could ever come from the enormity of this mess seemed like just a tease. It was a cruel joke that pulled on what …
Anxiety, An Invitation to Heal: Part 2
By Tori Henares, Personal Coach, The Unhindered Life Creating Safety Anxiety might seem irrational when it shows up. Most of us have become accustomed to judging our emotions, especially the inconvenient ones. Anxiety shows up unannounced and pulls us in, it can rob us of the present moment and send us back into past pain. But anxiety makes sense when …
We Are Expanding the Ministry!
We are expanding our ministry and we need your help! Hope After Betrayal Board has been in prayer seeking God’s direction to expand the ministry in order to meet the growing need of sexually betrayed women who need to experience God’s cloak of hope and healing. In this process of praying and waiting, the board was led to one of …
Betrayal Trauma: The Struggle to Cope
You have been betrayed in your marriage. Whether from a hidden sex addiction, porn, or infidelity, you are feeling devastated from the pain. Do you now find yourself struggling to cope with the daily tasks that once felt easy? Or has your physical health has gone downhill? Is your spouse is still relapsing and acting out? Or not understanding the …
Safe People
This world feels like it has become harder to discern who is safe and who is not. There are destructive trends happening right now that have trickled even into well established friendships. People are painting those with differing views as the enemy and then surrounding themselves with only like-minded folks who do not challenge or question their personal views. This …
Broken During Christmas
Christmas Eve is only a few days away, and while many are filling themselves with holiday cheer, perhaps you are facing a broken heart and an overwhelming situation. If you are dealing with the trauma of betrayal, our staff and facilitators are here to walk with you through it. Below is a testimony from someone who has recently completed a …
Slow Cooker Faith
Written by Becky F. Recently, I found myself going through past photos for various reasons. Often when I search for one particular photo, I get lost in the hundreds of photos taken over the years. So many wonderful times with so many great people! Then it hit me. There used to be a time that looking at past photos was …
Oil That Breaks the Yoke of Pain
Guest Blog written by Andrea Jones, of Abundant Wellness with Andrea LLC “I will take the crushing and turn it into oil that breaks the yoke.” I’ve been sitting on this encounter for a while. I’m not sure there will ever be words to adequately describe it, but I felt a burning in my heart to share it today… …
Healing From Divorce: Part 3 of 3
The Calm After the Storm The way God has continued to craft my life after my separation and divorce still blows my mind. As I shared in previous posts, He has brought me a new job, a whole new group of friends, and so much more. I am reminded over and over that God causes everything to work together for …
Healing From Divorce: Part 2 of 3
Leaving The day we decided my husband would move out was January 25th—the day after my son’s birthday. As I sat there with my three-month-old baby, he seemed so eager to pack his things and leave. At that point, I felt as though I was only floating through the day. I was not sure if it was just my lack …
An Exercise In Aligning Perspectives
“I sat there stunned, scrolling through his browsing history as image after image showed a slew of underdressed athletes in suggestive poses for the camera. The familiar feelings of betrayal struck a chord in my heart as it seemed yet again, he was choosing to look for self-gratification in places other than his wife. The troubling fact was, he had …
Formal Disclosure
By Heather Davis The process of a formal therapeutic disclosure consists of the betrayer sharing the full reality of their acting out, guided and supported by their therapist, with the one who has been betrayed, who also is being supported and guided by a therapist. It is an essential step in recovery and healing from the effects of sexual addiction …
Guest Blog: We Survived Infidelity
Guest Blog by Hilarie Barry Facing Infidelity “I lay at the bottom of a dark pit, trembling, frightened, alone. I’m lost. What happened? Where’s Joe? Joe! My eyes flashed open and it all came rushing back, first the memories, then the knot in my stomach. It wasn’t a dream. My life had become a nightmare. It was Christmas 2013 when …
A Good Reminder
When I am frustrated by seeming injustice, inequality, or even inactivity when I want to see action, I remember this verse. It helps me to pause and reflect on the truth that there is One far greater in charge of all that happens here on earth. This reminder brings peace as I look back at the times I felt the …
