The Good, The Bad, and the Uninvited

Kristy RodriguezUncategorized

It’s the beginning of 2023. For many of us, the new year is a time that inspires hope and new beginnings. It’s a time for goal setting, vision casting, and celebrating possibilities. Throughout the month of January we turned to Scriptures such as Isaiah 43:18-19 to remind ourselves and affirm that “God is doing a new thing”. Some “new” things …

Anxiety, An Invitation to Heal: Part 2

By Hope After BetrayalAnxiety, Uncategorized

By Tori Henares, Personal Coach, The Unhindered Life Creating Safety Anxiety might seem irrational when it shows up. Most of us have become accustomed to judging our emotions, especially the inconvenient ones. Anxiety shows up unannounced and pulls us in, it can rob us of the present moment and send us back into past pain. But anxiety makes sense when …

God Is In the Darkness

Meg Wilsonbetrayal

I have noticed this tendency to believe God has abandoned me in the seasons of darkness. When I’m sad, depressed or angry, I think God must be absent, or worse He’s upset with me. It is easy to feel God is only present in the victorious times of joy and celebration. He is the author of victory and strength after …

Betrayal Trauma: The Struggle to Cope

By Hope After Betrayalbetrayal, Relationships, Uncategorized

You have been betrayed in your marriage. Whether from a hidden sex addiction, porn, or infidelity, you are feeling devastated from the pain. Do you now find yourself struggling to cope with the daily tasks that once felt easy? Or has your physical health has gone downhill? Is your spouse is still relapsing and acting out? Or not understanding the …

Broken During Christmas

By Hope After BetrayalGeneral, Grief, Uncategorized

Christmas Eve is only a few days away, and while many are filling themselves with holiday cheer, perhaps you are facing a broken heart and an overwhelming situation. If you are dealing with the trauma of betrayal, our staff and facilitators are here to walk with you through it. Below is a testimony from someone who has recently completed a …

Slow Cooker Faith

By Hope After BetrayalEncouragement, Relationships, Spiritual Life, Uncategorized

Written by Becky F. Recently, I found myself going through past photos for various reasons.  Often when I search for one particular photo, I get lost in the hundreds of photos taken over the years.  So many wonderful times with so many great people! Then it hit me. There used to be a time that looking at past photos was …

Oil That Breaks the Yoke of Pain

By Hope After BetrayalGrief, Uncategorized

Guest Blog written by Andrea Jones, of Abundant Wellness with Andrea LLC “I will take the crushing and turn it into oil that breaks the yoke.”    I’ve been sitting on this encounter for a while. I’m not sure there will ever be words to adequately describe it, but I felt a burning in my heart to share it today… …

Healing From Divorce: Part 2 of 3

By Hope After BetrayalDivorce, Uncategorized

Leaving The day we decided my husband would move out was January 25th—the day after my son’s birthday. As I sat there with my three-month-old baby, he seemed so eager to pack his things and leave. At that point, I felt as though I was only floating through the day. I was not sure if it was just my lack …

Healing From Divorce: Part 1 of 3

By Hope After BetrayalDivorce, Relationships, Uncategorized

THE SHOCKWAVE “I had an affair.” That statement literally felt like the equivalent of falling off of a 10-story building. It did not help that while I was being told this, I was driving on HWY 14 with my 5-month-old son in the backseat. The world seemed to stand still. I felt like I was having an out of body …

An Exercise In Aligning Perspectives

By Hope After Betrayalcurrent year, Relationships, Uncategorized

“I sat there stunned, scrolling through his browsing history as image after image showed a slew of underdressed athletes in suggestive poses for the camera. The familiar feelings of betrayal struck a chord in my heart as it seemed yet again, he was choosing to look for self-gratification in places other than his wife. The troubling fact was, he had …

Formal Disclosure

By Hope After BetrayalEncouragement, Relationships, Uncategorized

By Heather Davis The process of a formal therapeutic disclosure consists of the betrayer sharing the full reality of their acting out, guided and supported by their therapist, with the one who has been betrayed, who also is being supported and guided by a therapist. It is an essential step in recovery and healing from the effects of sexual addiction …

Guest Blog: We Survived Infidelity

Annie Demaracurrent year, Encouragement, Grief, Relationships

Guest Blog by Hilarie Barry Facing Infidelity “I lay at the bottom of a dark pit, trembling, frightened, alone. I’m lost.  What happened?  Where’s Joe?  Joe! My eyes flashed open and it all came rushing back, first the memories, then the knot in my stomach.  It wasn’t a dream.  My life had become a nightmare. It was Christmas 2013 when …

Guest Blog: Rescued from the Cave of Betrayal

Annie DemaraGrief, Relationships, Uncategorized

Cave of Betrayal “Lord, may my husband be quick to agree with You in his sin.” The words were not my own, but those of a “pray for your husband guide” that I had been following. The timing of this prayer was not a coincidence. Just a couple of hours after that sentence left my lips, I found myself fully …

Celebrating Independence Day

Meg WilsonArchive, Encouragement, General

When it comes to Independence Day, most people think of celebrating with picnics and fireworks. Whereas I grew up in a military family, and this day has a deeper meaning for me. When I was young, my father was away for almost a year serving in Vietnam as an Air Force Navigator. My grandfather earned a purple heart during WWII …

Wounded In Church

Meg WilsonArchive

When your ministry is dealing with the underbelly of the Church you end up seeing a lot of pain. Hope After Betrayal ministries serves wives betrayed by their husband’s sexual brokenness. Sexual Addiction is the epidemic no one wants to deal with. I certainly wanted to run when my marriage was infected and broke open seventeen years ago. Seeing women …