When your ministry is dealing with the underbelly of the Church you end up seeing a lot of pain. Hope After Betrayal ministries serves wives betrayed by their husband’s sexual brokenness. Sexual Addiction is the epidemic no one wants to deal with. I certainly wanted to run when my marriage was infected and broke open seventeen years ago. Seeing women …
Stone Paths or Piles? What Am I Leaving Behind?
Boy Scout founder, Robert Baden Powell said, “No one can pass through life, any more than he can pass through a bit of country, without leaving tracks behind, and those tracks may often be helpful to those coming after him in finding their way.” I wondered what I am leaving behind as I go through life? What is my legacy? …
Broken Teacups
If you are a person who struggles with perfectionism, you are in good company. As a Christian, the perfect standard of Christ is held up most often. I take on the challenge often forgetting that if there was any chance I could be perfect I would not need a Savior. I forget why I accepted Him in the first place—my …
On My Worst Day
In this season of hustle, bustle, and holiday stress, it is easy to lose your cool. This got me thinking about my worst days. On my worst day, I am short with fellow shoppers, drivers, and sales clerks. I can’t find a kind word to give even in return. On my worst day, I don’t have the energy to clean …
To “D” or Not to “D”, That is the Question
When walking with women devastated by marital betrayal, the question of whether to divorce inevitably comes up in the groups. Outside of the groups, I am often asked, “What percentage of marriages does Hope After Betrayal Ministries save?” So the weight of these questions is not lost on me. In fact, it is too great for me to carry. I …
A Good Reminder
When I am frustrated by seeming injustice, inequality, or even inactivity when I want to see action, I remember this verse. It helps me to pause and reflect on the truth that there is One far greater in charge of all that happens here on earth. This reminder brings peace as I look back at the times I felt the …
Godly Grief
Godly grief may seem like an oxymoron at first. Doesn’t being a daughter or son of the Almighty God give you a pass on pain? After all, we learn in Romans 8:28 that all things work for our good and in 8:27, we are more than conquerors and we are promised in John 10:10 Christ came to give us an …
Spring
I love spring. Even when I lived in So. California and there was no shortage of sun, the light of spring seemed different. Now that I live in the Pacific Northwest, I look forward to the explosion of pink and white petals which seems to come out of nowhere. When those first fruit trees burst forth their floral announcement of …
Out From the Cold
This is the time of year for lights, packages, and a frenzied pursuit of the “Merry” that is Christ-mas. Even in the Christian community we buy in to the “make it special” mind set with the end-less holiday pageants, singing trees, and “Jesus is the reason for the season” bumper stickers. We do as the world, but we add a …
Degreasing
There is a sticky substance that once it gets into my heart and mind, seems to grow. If left un-checked, soon I’m drowning. I had to deal with this black goop a lot after my husband’s disclosure regarding his sexual sin. That was 15 years ago. Much like cleaning up an oil spill, it took a lot of time and …
A Tale of Two Pretties!
I was enjoying the graduation party of my friend’s son this weekend when the idea for this blog jumped into my head. I was looking at this good looking high school graduate about to take off on a college adventure with a full-ride scholarship and a houseful of folks who will be praying for his success. I saw in his …
Perspectives
Sometimes a word keeps coming up as if the Lord wants me to pay particular attention. Perspective seems to be the word of this season. I had the pleasure of spending three weeks welcoming my first grandchild, a boy, into the world with my daughter and son-in-love. To say it was awesome doesn’t do such a blessing justice but, that’s …
Season of New!
Have you ever been thrown into a new job or situation knowing little of what was ahead? It happened last year for me with Hope After Betrayal Ministries. Every day was like turning a new page. This kind of unknown territory can bring a great deal of fear if I focus on the “what if” instead of the One who …
Unclean
I recently went to a Christian conference and everywhere I went people asked what my ministry was. Over and over people would get uncomfortable when I mentioned my book, “Hope After Betrayal” and the ministry I am starting. Little by little, bits of their shame splashed on me and began to feel heavy. After two days, I went into my …
Picking Up Grain
If you are familiar with the story of Ruth, you will recall that Boaz offers help by allowing her to follow behind during harvest and pick up any dropped wheat. She doesn’t have to pick it, just follow the other workers in faith. This is how I have been feeling over the last few months. God has been dropping grain …
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