Unwanted
How Sexual Brokeness Reveals Our Way To Healing
As a counselor who works closely with women—many of whom have been deeply affected by a partner’s struggle with sexual addiction—I’ve found Unwanted by Jay Stringer to be an invaluable resource. Unlike many books that approach sexual addiction solely through behavior modification or shame-based frameworks, Stringer invites readers to look beneath the surface, exploring the stories, wounds, and patterns that often give rise to unwanted sexual behavior.
What makes Unwanted particularly helpful for women trying to understand the men in their lives is its compassionate and research-based approach. Stringer doesn’t excuse harmful behaviors, but he does humanize the struggle—offering insight into how trauma, unmet needs, and even family systems shape the sexual narratives men carry. For wives, mothers, sisters, and friends seeking clarity, this book offers language, empathy, and perspective without minimizing the pain caused.
Moreover, Unwanted empowers women by helping them recognize that healing isn’t just about fixing a partner’s problem—it’s about understanding the broader story at play. It equips women with tools to discern healthy boundaries, identify enabling patterns, and move toward their own emotional wholeness.
If you’re seeking a deeper understanding of the internal battles many men face and a hopeful, grace-filled pathway toward change, Unwanted is a profoundly helpful guide—for both the struggler and those who love them.