I am excited to introduce you to one of my remote facilitators, Marilyn. I love this lady’s transparency and heart for the hurting. I wanted you to hear her through her blog but also introduce you to a great resource. She refers to her devotional called Jewels of Wisdom. If you are like me, your can’t have enough good devotionals. …
How Good is Good Enough?
This concept of “good” keeps coming up. Dealing with wives betrayed by their husband’s sexual brokenness, many women fall into the pit of thinking if they were just good enough, their husband wouldn’t have strayed. The most common lie is, “If I was just prettier, sexier, sweeter, etc. This is a difficult lie to dislodge because we live in a …
Good Intentions, Gone Bad
Amy looked at Kay blinking back tears. “I had no idea you felt that way.” “I didn’t want to hurt your feelings, but I couldn’t let you continue to run over me.” Amy felt her defenses rising up but Kay quickly added, “I know that was not your intention, you are a natural helper. It’s just that you need to …
Betrayal and Identity: Who are you…..really?
“If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it: but it is you, my companion, my close friend.” (Psalm 55: 12-13) Have you ever been betrayed by your spouse? Your heart securely trusted in him only to find out that he was keeping secrets, actively lying about who he was—shattering marital vows and sacred intimacy with mental or physical …
Illuminate
Illuminate: To light up. This word has been on my mind. Working with women in pain means I spend a lot of time hearing about dark places. My heart has always been to illuminate those places with the heart of God. To give hope where hopelessness reigns and to offer peace in a place of despair. I want to be …
New Year, New Website!
Typically, I jump into the new year exited about a new start and all of the potential that lies ahead. This year began very different as I crawled into 2018 and missed the first week due to the flu. I have yet to feel like I am caught up. Slowly the piles are getting smaller,(comma) and I see much potential …
When Christmas Isn’t Merry
‘Tis just days before Christmas and all through the house is a feeling of loneliness having been betrayed by my spouse. No stockings are hung and the chimney is bare, I am home yet wishing I was any where but there. Every channel is airing some cheery holiday show, If feels like everyone’s going somewhere I can’t go. I try …
Toxic Secrets
Secrets can be a fun way to surprise someone we love. They can be appropriate between close friends or married couples when they build intimacy and deepen the relationship. Like that secret pet name than only two lovebirds share. But then there are secrets intended to hide a shameful act or crime. They are often demanded or coerced because someone …
Trapped in a World Wide Web
Billions of bits of information fly across social media every second. The internet, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn, Snap Chat, and on and on it goes. Site after site dedicated to “con-necting” people online. On the surface it seems like harmless fun and a great tool when friends and family want to share their lives. After more than ten years, though, …
Wounded In Church
When your ministry is dealing with the underbelly of the Church you end up seeing a lot of pain. Hope After Betrayal ministries serves wives betrayed by their husband’s sexual brokenness. Sexual Addiction is the epidemic no one wants to deal with. I certainly wanted to run when my marriage was infected and broke open seventeen years ago. Seeing women …
Stone Paths or Piles? What Am I Leaving Behind?
Boy Scout founder, Robert Baden Powell said, “No one can pass through life, any more than he can pass through a bit of country, without leaving tracks behind, and those tracks may often be helpful to those coming after him in finding their way.” I wondered what I am leaving behind as I go through life? What is my legacy? …
Broken Teacups
If you are a person who struggles with perfectionism, you are in good company. As a Christian, the perfect standard of Christ is held up most often. I take on the challenge often forgetting that if there was any chance I could be perfect I would not need a Savior. I forget why I accepted Him in the first place—my …
On My Worst Day
In this season of hustle, bustle, and holiday stress, it is easy to lose your cool. This got me thinking about my worst days. On my worst day, I am short with fellow shoppers, drivers, and sales clerks. I can’t find a kind word to give even in return. On my worst day, I don’t have the energy to clean …
To “D” or Not to “D”, That is the Question
When walking with women devastated by marital betrayal, the question of whether to divorce inevitably comes up in the groups. Outside of the groups, I am often asked, “What percentage of marriages does Hope After Betrayal Ministries save?” So the weight of these questions is not lost on me. In fact, it is too great for me to carry. I …
A Good Reminder
When I am frustrated by seeming injustice, inequality, or even inactivity when I want to see action, I remember this verse. It helps me to pause and reflect on the truth that there is One far greater in charge of all that happens here on earth. This reminder brings peace as I look back at the times I felt the …
