What comes to mind when you hear the word harvest? For me it stirs up childhood memories of helping gather the bountiful amounts of produce from my grandparents’ garden. Sometimes, it conjures up sweet memories of my children enjoying our annual harvest celebration. In fact, I can hear the sound of their laughter as they make fun childhood memories of …
Lessons From the Rearview Mirror
In a single moment, life as I had known it came to an unexpected end. Devastation and pain abruptly barged into my life as a result of my husband’s sexual sin and infidelity. Hope that anything good could ever come from the enormity of this mess seemed like just a tease. It was a cruel joke that pulled on what …
Anxiety, An Invitation to Heal: Part 2
By Tori Henares, Personal Coach, The Unhindered Life Creating Safety Anxiety might seem irrational when it shows up. Most of us have become accustomed to judging our emotions, especially the inconvenient ones. Anxiety shows up unannounced and pulls us in, it can rob us of the present moment and send us back into past pain. But anxiety makes sense when …
Anxiety, An Invitation to Heal: Part 1
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God Is In the Darkness
I have noticed this tendency to believe God has abandoned me in the seasons of darkness. When I’m sad, depressed or angry, I think God must be absent, or worse He’s upset with me. It is easy to feel God is only present in the victorious times of joy and celebration. He is the author of victory and strength after …
Betrayal Trauma: The Struggle to Cope
You have been betrayed in your marriage. Whether from a hidden sex addiction, porn, or infidelity, you are feeling devastated from the pain. Do you now find yourself struggling to cope with the daily tasks that once felt easy? Or has your physical health has gone downhill? Is your spouse is still relapsing and acting out? Or not understanding the …
Healing From Divorce: Part 2 of 3
Leaving The day we decided my husband would move out was January 25th—the day after my son’s birthday. As I sat there with my three-month-old baby, he seemed so eager to pack his things and leave. At that point, I felt as though I was only floating through the day. I was not sure if it was just my lack …
Healing From Divorce: Part 1 of 3
THE SHOCKWAVE “I had an affair.” That statement literally felt like the equivalent of falling off of a 10-story building. It did not help that while I was being told this, I was driving on HWY 14 with my 5-month-old son in the backseat. The world seemed to stand still. I felt like I was having an out of body …
An Exercise In Aligning Perspectives
“I sat there stunned, scrolling through his browsing history as image after image showed a slew of underdressed athletes in suggestive poses for the camera. The familiar feelings of betrayal struck a chord in my heart as it seemed yet again, he was choosing to look for self-gratification in places other than his wife. The troubling fact was, he had …
Formal Disclosure
By Heather Davis The process of a formal therapeutic disclosure consists of the betrayer sharing the full reality of their acting out, guided and supported by their therapist, with the one who has been betrayed, who also is being supported and guided by a therapist. It is an essential step in recovery and healing from the effects of sexual addiction …
Guest Blog: We Survived Infidelity
Guest Blog by Hilarie Barry Facing Infidelity “I lay at the bottom of a dark pit, trembling, frightened, alone. I’m lost. What happened? Where’s Joe? Joe! My eyes flashed open and it all came rushing back, first the memories, then the knot in my stomach. It wasn’t a dream. My life had become a nightmare. It was Christmas 2013 when …
