Until a few years ago, I almost never said “pornography.” If absolutely necessary to use this word, I whispered and practically choked on it as it exited my mouth. I didn’t want to talk about pornography, nor did I think it proper. When discussing explicit images, I used the phrase “inappropriate pictures” and assumed others understood. Even then, I lowered …
To the Momma Going Through Trauma
Do you feel that you can’t be the parent you want to be because you are not the “pre-trauma” momma you used to be? Instead of tending to your kids you are busy dealing with anxiety, fear, anger, depression, and a heart shattered to pieces. I understand. For those who have been through betrayal and are worried about the impact …
The Good, The Bad, and the Uninvited
It’s the beginning of 2023. For many of us, the new year is a time that inspires hope and new beginnings. It’s a time for goal setting, vision casting, and celebrating possibilities. Throughout the month of January we turned to Scriptures such as Isaiah 43:18-19 to remind ourselves and affirm that “God is doing a new thing”. Some “new” things …
It’s Not the Most Wonderful Time of the Year
It’s supposed to be the “most wonderful time of the year” but sadly… it’s not. If you are dealing with the pain of betrayal, the holiday season feels anything but merry and bright. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to navigate this season with grace and hope. You may find it hard to walk in the beauty …
Harvesting Hope and Healing
What comes to mind when you hear the word harvest? For me it stirs up childhood memories of helping gather the bountiful amounts of produce from my grandparents’ garden. Sometimes, it conjures up sweet memories of my children enjoying our annual harvest celebration. In fact, I can hear the sound of their laughter as they make fun childhood memories of …
Lessons From the Rearview Mirror
In a single moment, life as I had known it came to an unexpected end. Devastation and pain abruptly barged into my life as a result of my husband’s sexual sin and infidelity. Hope that anything good could ever come from the enormity of this mess seemed like just a tease. It was a cruel joke that pulled on what …
Anxiety, An Invitation to Heal: Part 2
By Tori Henares, Personal Coach Creating Safety Anxiety might seem irrational when it shows up. Most of us have become accustomed to judging our emotions, especially the inconvenient ones. Anxiety shows up unannounced and pulls us in, it can rob us of the present moment and send us back into past pain. But anxiety makes sense when you’ve gone through …
Anxiety, An Invitation to Heal: Part 1
This blog was written in collaboration with Bloom for Women’s 6-week Growth Session. Blog is written by Tori Henares, Personal Coach Living With Anxiety Anxiety is a feeling I am well acquainted with. You may know the feeling too. It’s that feeling that something bad could happen at any moment and pull the rug out from under you, and there’s …
God Is In the Darkness
I have noticed this tendency to believe God has abandoned me in the seasons of darkness. When I’m sad, depressed or angry, I think God must be absent, or worse He’s upset with me. It is easy to feel God is only present in the victorious times of joy and celebration. He is the author of victory and strength after …
We Are Expanding the Ministry!
We are expanding our ministry and we need your help! Hope After Betrayal Board has been in prayer seeking God’s direction to expand the ministry in order to meet the growing need of sexually betrayed women who need to experience God’s cloak of hope and healing. In this process of praying and waiting, the board was led to one of …
Betrayal Trauma: The Struggle to Cope
You have been betrayed in your marriage. Whether from a hidden sex addiction, porn, or infidelity, you are feeling devastated from the pain. Do you now find yourself struggling to cope with the daily tasks that once felt easy? Or has your physical health has gone downhill? Is your spouse is still relapsing and acting out? Or not understanding the …
PVC (Personal Vessels for Christ)
PVC Blog Post by Meg Wilson As a visual learner, I love a good picture metaphor. I want to share one I find myself using a lot especially when talking about the blessings, Holy Spirit, and resources of the Lord. Picture white PVC pipe, the type used in buildings and homes for plumbing. Its sole purpose is to allow what …
Safe People
This world feels like it has become harder to discern who is safe and who is not. There are destructive trends happening right now that have trickled even into well established friendships. People are painting those with differing views as the enemy and then surrounding themselves with only like-minded folks who do not challenge or question their personal views. This …
Broken During Christmas
Christmas Eve is only a few days away, and while many are filling themselves with holiday cheer, perhaps you are facing a broken heart and an overwhelming situation. If you are dealing with the trauma of betrayal, our staff and facilitators are here to walk with you through it. Below is a testimony from someone who has recently completed a …
Slow Cooker Faith
Written by Becky F. Recently, I found myself going through past photos for various reasons. Often when I search for one particular photo, I get lost in the hundreds of photos taken over the years. So many wonderful times with so many great people! Then it hit me. There used to be a time that looking at past photos was …